There is a difference between being kind and being nice. Nice means adhering to social norms, giving a compliment or just being polite. Kindness is about the genuine intention of helping someone or trying to do them well.
We believe if we act as we are told by our bosses, we will be evaluated accordingly. It sounds reasonable and rather logical – just do as you are told and everything will be fine but it is wrong and highly unhealthy. It should be a “Adult-Adult” constellation.
Most of our own personal triggers are formed in childhood. At a time where we are extremely conscious of our surroundings and subjective of the world around us in order to understand how it works and how we fit in so our needs are met.
(especially when you are older) Making friends is like dating. Two strangers meeting – either consciously or coincidentally, either hitting it off or barely getting through small talk. Sometimes there is a spark and sometimes there isn’t. This part of two strangers meeting is the most vital part – somehow at some time, you mustContinue reading “Figuring Out Friendships – Series Part 2: How do you make friends?”
Why don’t we talk about Friendships? Managing friendships is something that is rarely talked about. Psychologists often deal with family dynamics, coaches (like me) with self love, there are many books on romantic relationships and how to deal with any differences. Even books on parenting are plentiful. Yet friendships is often a topic that isContinue reading “Figuring Out Friendships – Series Part 1”
Resilience is a thing we all strive for, yet what it means, why we want it and how we can grow it is often unclear. Here’s an article that explores that.
though many restrictions have been lifted, these uncertainties remain. Not only that, new uncertainties have been added to the pile.I also don’t have a simple “this is how you deal with it” playbook. But here are some things that I have learned, some the hard way, and things people around me have shared
I probably fit every cliche of a white person. When leaving a restaurant I say “Let’s Rock’n’roll”, I get a sunburn while sitting in a car and wearing sunblock, I grew up in a suburb with a back yard with parents who listened to U2 and The Doors. Our neighbourhood was wonderfully wholesome and diverse.Continue reading “Living with the Guilt Of a White Person”
Life Coach is some one that helps you with a goal within a limited time frame. Rather than looking to the past like therapists do, coaches focus on implementing something in the future. Similar to therapists, it’s done with listening, trying out techniques and strategies that life coaches get you to where you want to be.
Many of us feel helpless in these times of a global pandemic, protests and police brutality let alone racism. Here’s a way to be helpful.