Why should you become friends with someone – and what are reasons you shouldn’t? I’m more the merrier type. If someone is kind, open and interesting I am more than willing to let them into my life. If they want to be a part of my life that is. As mentioned in a previous postContinue reading “Figuring Out Friendships – Part 3 – “Why should we be friends?””
Author Archives: Nika Life Coach
Change People’s Behavior By Being Kind
There is a difference between being kind and being nice. Nice means adhering to social norms, giving a compliment or just being polite. Kindness is about the genuine intention of helping someone or trying to do them well.
How do you shed the weight of expectations?
Losing body weight is easier than getting rid of the weight of expectations. I’m mainly referring to the silent expectations people have towards one another, that are rarely verbalized but also the ones we have towards ourselves, that we barely know are even there or where they came from
The Adult-Child Trap at Work
We believe if we act as we are told by our bosses, we will be evaluated accordingly. It sounds reasonable and rather logical – just do as you are told and everything will be fine but it is wrong and highly unhealthy. It should be a “Adult-Adult” constellation.
Your Own Triggers
Most of our own personal triggers are formed in childhood. At a time where we are extremely conscious of our surroundings and subjective of the world around us in order to understand how it works and how we fit in so our needs are met.
Figuring Out Friendships – Series Part 2: How do you make friends?
(especially when you are older) Making friends is like dating. Two strangers meeting – either consciously or coincidentally, either hitting it off or barely getting through small talk. Sometimes there is a spark and sometimes there isn’t. This part of two strangers meeting is the most vital part – somehow at some time, you mustContinue reading “Figuring Out Friendships – Series Part 2: How do you make friends?”
Figuring Out Friendships – Series Part 1
Why don’t we talk about Friendships? Managing friendships is something that is rarely talked about. Psychologists often deal with family dynamics, coaches (like me) with self love, there are many books on romantic relationships and how to deal with any differences. Even books on parenting are plentiful. Yet friendships is often a topic that isContinue reading “Figuring Out Friendships – Series Part 1”
Resilience By Rest
Resilience is a thing we all strive for, yet what it means, why we want it and how we can grow it is often unclear. Here’s an article that explores that.
Lock down Lifted – Now What?
though many restrictions have been lifted, these uncertainties remain. Not only that, new uncertainties have been added to the pile.I also don’t have a simple “this is how you deal with it” playbook. But here are some things that I have learned, some the hard way, and things people around me have shared
Living with the Guilt Of a White Person
I probably fit every cliche of a white person. When leaving a restaurant I say “Let’s Rock’n’roll”, I get a sunburn while sitting in a car and wearing sunblock, I grew up in a suburb with a back yard with parents who listened to U2 and The Doors. Our neighbourhood was wonderfully wholesome and diverse.Continue reading “Living with the Guilt Of a White Person”
