Figuring Out Friendships – Part 3 – “Why should we be friends?”

Why should you become friends with someone – and what are reasons you shouldn’t? I’m more the merrier type. If someone is kind, open and interesting I am more than willing to let them into my life. If they want to be a part of my life that is. As mentioned in a previous postContinue reading “Figuring Out Friendships – Part 3 – “Why should we be friends?””

How do you shed the weight of expectations?

Losing body weight is easier than getting rid of the weight of expectations. I’m mainly referring to the silent expectations people have towards one another, that are rarely verbalized but also the ones we have towards ourselves, that we barely know are even there or where they came from

Figuring Out Friendships – Series Part 2: How do you make friends?

(especially when you are older) Making friends is like dating. Two strangers meeting – either consciously or coincidentally, either hitting it off or barely getting through small talk. Sometimes there is a spark and sometimes there isn’t. This part of two strangers meeting is the most vital part – somehow at some time, you mustContinue reading “Figuring Out Friendships – Series Part 2: How do you make friends?”

Figuring Out Friendships – Series Part 1

Why don’t we talk about Friendships? Managing friendships is something that is rarely talked about. Psychologists often deal with family dynamics, coaches (like me) with self love, there are many books on romantic relationships and how to deal with any differences. Even books on parenting are plentiful. Yet friendships is often a topic that isContinue reading “Figuring Out Friendships – Series Part 1”

Lock down Lifted – Now What?

though many restrictions have been lifted, these uncertainties remain. Not only that, new uncertainties have been added to the pile.I also don’t have a simple “this is how you deal with it” playbook. But here are some things that I have learned, some the hard way, and things people around me have shared

Living with the Guilt Of a White Person

I probably fit every cliche of a white person. When leaving a restaurant I say “Let’s Rock’n’roll”, I get a sunburn while sitting in a car and wearing sunblock, I grew up in a suburb with a back yard with parents who listened to U2 and The Doors. Our neighbourhood was wonderfully wholesome and diverse.Continue reading “Living with the Guilt Of a White Person”