If I got a penny for each time I heard people appologize for who they are I would be a millionaire.
Ok. Perhaps not quite. But it would a lot of pennies.
I don’t think there are many people out there who feel they should be more confident, more humble, more relaxed, less anxious, less worried- could go on for a while. What if we did something revolutionary though? What if we just accepted ourselves- unappologetically?
What would be so wrong with it? It’s ok to always work on self growth and keep improving to be a better version of yourself. That doesn’t speak in any way against self acceptance. Accepting who you are and knowing what your triggers are is a very helpful foundation to start with. Because as soon as you accept these things about you that you feel are “wrong”, the more they fade away. It’s like when you are on a sugar-free diet and you see a donut- you will never want a donut so much in your life. The more you reject something about yourself, the more it will force itself to be noticed. By accepting each of your quirks, you can observe when they come up and adress them appropriately rather than reject them (and using a lot of energy to do so, energy that could be used for self growth). If you think about it- how far has this personal rejection gotten you in your life? Perhaps it’s time to try a new strategy. Here’s how:
- Say: So what?
You forgot your keys again. You lost your fifth umbrella. So what. Who cares? Only you do. Get over it. It really doesn’t matter if you actually stop and think about it.
- Remember: You are bigger than this.
You are not your mistakes. So what is once in a while you are clumsy or messy. You are also kind, considerate, funny and so much more. You can never be defined by one single thing.
- Learn: Grow to love it.
Out of all the negative traits a human can have you think this is bad? No one is perfect. If this is you thing- then own it. Make loving what you perceive your flaw your strength.
I personally don’t believe we have flaws. I think we just have things we excel at and things we are less good at. But it doesn’t mean we are bad at them and more importantly, it doesn’t mean there is anything wrong with you.