I turned 30 last week. Unlike most people – I am proud to have turned 30. Life is short and for some people even shorter. Each step, each day has a beauty and a honor to it, its nice to have milestones like 30 to have a second to look back and reflect on things you have learned but also to look forward to many things still left to learn. I sat down and wrote for me, some of the key take aways from my first 30 years:
- It’s more about them than it is about you.
People are far too much in their own heads to be thinking about you that much. How they feel towards you, how they treat you – it all has to do with them and nothing about you. You may remind them of someone or say something that triggers them, but its all out of your control and has nothing to do with the person that you are and your essence.
- You can dance if you want to.
Dance whenever you get the chance because a) no one is actually watching b) you do not get enough opportunities in life to dance. Let go. Move and enjoy your movement. Don’t think about dance steps or copying someone. Let your body and your mind be free for that millisecond in your life.
- You are not the mistake you made.
So you did something wrong. Its says nothing about the person that you are and your capabilities. You made pancakes – does that make you a pastry chef? No. You made a mistake – it doesn’t mean you are one. It does not define you.
- Go to the bathroom.
Any time you leave a place, go to the bathroom. You won’t know when you will ever have the chance again. You might get stuck in traffic, your car might break down, the train might have delays. There is only a benefit to having an empty bladder or bowl. Treat yourself right, and look out for yourself.
- If the show doesn’t fit, it doesn’t fit.
If you don’t match with someone or you don’t click – that’s fine. It’s like placing diesel in a car made for gas. It won’t work and isn’t meant to. You are not made to be with everyone and be friends with anyone and that is fine. There are plenty of cars that do take diesel. Accepting yourself will help you find your tribe.
Bonus tip: Above all – make yourself happy.
If there is one thing that will help you get through this life, and help all others around you, it is if you are happy. Take care of yourself and treat yourself to the happiest life you could imagine living. That is the biggest benefit you can do to yourself and those around you.