Don’t get me wrong – there are plenty of moments where it is good and highly enjoyable to lose yourself. For example when creating any form of art, when enjoying a good conversations with friends or watching a movie. Getting lost in the moment is about being present and aware of your surroundings.
Yet, then there is the other kind of losing yourself. The one where you lose yourself to to-do lists, tasks, a career, duties – anything that doesn’t add energy to your life but rather takes it away from you. So many things are added to our lives that we forget to take a step back and think: How am I? Do I want to be doing this? And – Do I want it to change?
Taking a step back would be beneficial – it lets you check in with yourself and how much energy you have. It could be that you are running low and you need to tank up in order to meet the duties of every day life. And on another note – do you really want your life to be governed by external things? Do you really want to be an empty shell just spending your life closing items on your to do list? You can – I am not saying that is wrong, but is it really the way you want to spend your life with not even a moment dedicated to your own happiness?
There are a couple of ways of tuning into yourself and taking a step back, its best to find out which works for you:
- Find a routine task that you do on your own – for example shower, brushing your teeth, hey even going to the toilet. Dedicate that time to check in with how you are living your life and spending your energy. Remember not to be judgemental, just check in. You also don’t have to change anything in that moment.
- If you can, assign yourself “me time” just like any other task on your to do list. This could be yoga, meditation, reading, going for a walk, whatever it is make it just as important as any other task.
- Write in a journal. It doesn’t have to be a novel, just at the beginning of your day or end of the day whenever you feel you can make the time, jolt down how your day was and how you are feeling. It can be a sentence, it can be 500 pages, you do you.
The issue with losing yourself is that often you don’t even realize you have. So its best to be proactive about it. Everything in your life is better when you are more of yourself. The more we are ourselves the more our uniqueness can add to the quality of other people’s lives and our own. And if you don’t believe me on that, please do comment below – I am sure I can change your mind.